Select Page

Did You Embrace Black Friday?

 “Fear can be your best friend, or your worst enemy. Unless you learn to embrace it you will spend your life either running or fighting.”  My inbox saw a lot of DELETE activity this weekend. Subject lines beginning with “Don’t Miss Out,” or “Almost Gone!” or “Tomorrow Will Be Too Late!!” were deleted before I even glanced at the sender’s identity. Maybe I missed out on the best deal of my life, but I also bypassed a lot of hassle and stress. That’s also why I do not shop on “Black Friday.” Because I will not allow fear-based messages to take up space in my mind. Here are three things I DO embrace about those messages: They remind me of my Power of Consent (a phrase coined by my friend Richard Bach that I use often.) Each time a headline, subject line or pickup line screams (or even hints) that I’ll be SORRY if I don’t act NOW, I withdraw my consent to be manipulated, badgered, or frightened into making a choice under duress. I close my ears, look the other way, or hit the DELETE button and don’t give it another thought. They remind me that I do not “want” for anything. There are things I desire, but I am not in a state of want. Because I lack nothing, I have everything I need, and can have anything I am willing to work for. So there is no “last chance” at anything I cannot be perfectly happy without.  As my friend and manifestation coach, Kimberly Schneider, says in the title of her book “Everything You Need is...

I Ain’t Skeered Of Nothin’

If that’s true, you don’t need to read this. But let’s get real. You’ve been afraid, haven’t you? It’s okay, you can admit it. Contrary to what sports enthusiasts and drill sergeants would have you believe, fear is nothing to be ashamed of. But you don’t have to let it limit your life. In fact, moving through fear to make the choices that best serve your life is a prerequisite for living an unlimited life. “Whatever you believe you fear owns your life.” That’s from one of my journals, and anytime I believe I am afraid of something, I make it a point to take my life back by challenging that belief. But there is one fear, or belief in fear, that’s been kicking me in the teeth – or more accurately in the mind - for most of my life. Last weekend, I got out my toolbox and did some major demolition. Because that belief in fear was in the way of something I wanted to do. My toolbox is full of fear-blasting techniques and processes. But my demolition project last weekend took all of them; I even ended up creating some new ones. Taking you through all of it would require more space than I’m going to give it here. But I’ll walk you through the first three steps. Step One – Balance fear against desire Most people are afraid of lions, tigers, and bears. At least they would be if they encountered them in the wild. We accept this fear as reasonable since lions, tigers and bears all have a track record of doing significant damage...

Are You Exercising Your Power of Choice – Or Just Using the Default Setting?

I woke this morning in a mild panic. Something wasn’t right. My body said I should be up and doing. My smartphone hadn’t yet alerted me to that fact. Then my conscious mind remembered; we did the “fall behind” thing last night so instead of having overslept, I still had nearly 45 minutes before my phone would start playing the David Darling cello piece that I use as my (first) alarm. It’s interesting how technology is set up to assume we will make the same choices that the rest of society is making. My phone is set to reference the World Clock and display whatever time that clock says it is in whatever part of the world my geo-location service says I’m in. So you might say I “had no choice” about what time my alarm would go off this morning. However, I could have; Set the alarm to go off an hour earlier (which, according to my mind, would have been at the “normal” time.) Opted out of the geo-location service or elected NOT to have the phone auto-update from the World Clock. Used a traditional alarm clock (I think they still make them.) Turned the alarm off (it IS Sunday after all) and trusted my mind/body memory to tell me when to wake up. I had even more choices, but I’ve promised to try to keep my posts shorter so I’ll stick to the obvious (less creative) ones. It made me think about all the times I’ve had someone say to me, “I don’t have a choice.” We always have choices. And every choice has a consequence....