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Just As I Am

Just As I Am

One of the little “doses of dynamite” that I’ve jotted down in my journal says: “If I have to be someone I’m not in order to do what I want to do then I need to reexamine either what I want or who I think I am.” I don’t share these musings from my journals as Daily Dose of Dynamite emails until I’m ready to unpack them, and this one wasn’t ready to be unpacked. Until now. On a group coaching call this morning with my Dynamite U members, we talked about an opportunity one of our members had been given. We discussed how she could make it more successful and how she would define success. And she said to me, “I know a lot of people think I should be doing this, or doing that, but I’m just not that person yet.” Suddenly the message in the little note I’d written to my future self made sense. We never need to be someone we aren’t. But sometimes, when we want to do a thing that we aren’t ready to do, we expand our understanding to realize that we CAN meet the requirements that thing sets for us. She doesn’t need to be anyone she isn’t. But this opportunity is inspiring her to stretch her understanding of who she is to include doing things she didn’t think were possible. She’s embracing her strengths and using them to do what needs doing in her own way. Not the way she’s “supposed to” but in the way that is authentic for her. At first I thought this was what I was...

Is that ALL That You Yam?

“Are you using ‘I am what I am’ as an excuse for being less than you can be?” “I yam what I yam and that’s all that I yam.” One of the most famous lines ever delivered by a philosopher or comic book character! I thought maybe I’d give you a little background on what made me write that down, or maybe I’d give you a little encouragement along the lines of “be all that you can be.” But I think you know what it means. I think you know that you are more than a “simple sailor” or a simple ANYTHING. I think you’re looking for access to your deepest, biggest, awesomest self. Just like I am. And just like I do, I’ll bet sometimes it’s tempting to say to yourself, “I am what I am, I can’t be more.” So instead I decided I would share with you an exercise one of my coaches asked me to undertake. To write a list of “I Am” statements - and use them as a challenge, as a way to raise the bar and as an incentive to accelerate the pace of the game. I took that exercise beyond the usual “I am a writer, I am a coach, I am an animal lover, I am a small-town girl transplanted to a life in the city…” I asked myself, “What are you really, if you were no longer any of those things?”   I AM… A unique arrangement of universal matter. I have never been and I will never be again. I am the seed and the soil, the rose and the rose hip....

Coaching Yourself to Win

“Words that are UPlifting always get better results than those that are DOWNputting” While reading about tennis legend, Martina Navratilova I came across a story about one of her first tennis coaches. It seems that this coach was egging the young Martina on by saying things like “if you play like that you’ll never be a professional champion,” while telling anyone who asked that the ONLY female player she was coaching who stood a chance was Martina. Martina, despairing of ever being good enough to please her coach, nearly left the game. She didn’t quit - in fact, she was the Number One player for 7 years and still plays on the World Team Tennis circuit as a guest celebrity. Her career wins include 18 singles and 41 doubles Grand Slam titles, including a record 9 Wimbledons, and a total of 167 singles titles and 178 doubles titles. Of course, her coach was only coaching Martina the way she herself had been coached, but it almost backfired. If it had, the world would have been deprived of some great tennis, but that is the LEAST of Martina’s impact. She has campaigned for equality in women’s tennis, is an active supporter of animal rights programs, she volunteers and contributes generously to organizations that advocate for underprivileged children and serves as the Health and Fitness Ambassador for AARP. Impact that would have likely not been accessible to Martina if she had turned her back on a career in tennis. It led me to think about coaching methods - both as a coach and as a client. I’m not a huge sports...